Five Kind Things Meme
1. List five kind things you do for yourself.
2.List five kind things you do for your closest friend, partner or child.
3.List five kind things you have done for a stranger.
4. Have fun!
5. Tag five people.
Five Kind Things I Do For Myself
1. Read. Well, duh. But reading does so many things for me: Entertains, enlightens, informs. And keeps my brain well-oiled.
2. Blog breaks. Okay, I take blog breaks at work. When I’m at my wits’ end or otherwise need a breath of fresh air, I post or peruse my blogroll.
3. Hang with my kitties. When my cats sprawl on top of me as I watch TV or read, I think they soak up all angst.
4. Go to Buddhist meditations and lectures. I just started this in earnest, as what I have been going through with my parents finally pried open my completely locked spiritual door. Catholicism hasn’t worked for me since second grade, and I want and need some sort of spiritual grounding. Buddhism gives me peace.
5. Call my friends. I am not a big one on reaching out (who wants to bother other people?), but my friends are always there for me. That has been a big comfort.
Five Kind Things I Do For My Good Friends
1. Listen to them. At least, I hope I do. I make every effort, and even that is not enough. Listening to someone is the best you can do, and it’s the hardest oftentimes.
2. Encourage them. I am not really great at giving them my time, but I do have lots of energy and ideas for when they hit their walls.
3. Loan them money. I’m not rich, and I’m certainly not philanthropic, but I don’t hesitate when my friends need to borrow. And I’m not a nag about payback (I don’t keep very good track, but the kind of people who are my friends are very scrupulous about paying back.) I think this is not only because it helps my friends and I’m not a money-grubber, but also because it’s a way to give and I’m not good about giving time.
4. Don’t hold grudges. If you’ve ever been close to grudge-holders, well, you know that this is the gift that keeps on giving.
5. Make them laugh. I don’t think anyone can do this enough, and I need to work harder at this, but we do have fun and laugh, my friends and I.
Five Kind Things I Have Done For Strangers
1. Give money. That’s pretty easy.
2. Give directions and even help them to their destination, if I can. (I’m not great at directions myself, so this is a trick.)
3. Compliment them. Sometimes, if someone looks like they could use a boost or even when they can’t, a nice word goes a long way.
4. Give them advice. Sometimes friends have asked me to help their friends, and usually it involves writing or careers.
5. Let them have the seat.
Three things I had to Learn the Hard Way
1. “You can’t get crucified for what you don’t say.” Still learning that one.
2. “Don’t sleep with a man on the first date.” Still learning that one.
3. “Mud too thick doesn’t stick.” An old Polish saying, which I think relates to peasants and hut-building. Nevertheless, it means when people get intimate too fast, it usually falls apart or doesn’t last. This relates to point #2 very well. Still learning this one.
Tag (take your pick of the meme): Dorothy W., Iliana, Verbivore, Minus Spine (for the 5 Things), and Dark Orpheus.